As a mother, sister, wife, daughter and friend, over the years I have that sometimes you have to be a little bit selfish to simply appreciate first yourself and then life. I have convinced myself that there is nothing wrong with being a little selfish from time to time if it means that for once you are thinking and taking care of yourself instead of constantly putting everyone else first and your own needs last. Prioritising your needs is good for your well-being, your relationship and even for your career goals. If you do not look after yourself then you are no use to the people closest to you.
Secure your own oxygen mask before helping someone else.
I’ll leave this quote hanging for your own interpretation!
Looking after yourself and doing nice things for yourself is very important so putting yourself first and indulging in some “moi” moments is one of the best thing you can do for your well-being. Don’t EVER feel guilty for wanting to do things for yourself. It is OKAY to let someone down gently, even your children once in a while if it means you get to concentrate on yourself. I sound like a bad mother at the moment but I am just being honest.
Sometimes complicated situation will force you to be selfish in the most unexpected ways that family and friends will regard it as you being ungrateful. For example, choosing to leave an unhappy relationship or marriage might hurt or disappoint others, especially your family but if this means that, you are looking after your well-being, as tough as it will be, this is something you have to do.Unhappiness breeds unhealthy well-being. Knowing what is good for your happiness and sanity sends a really powerful message to yourself that you know your self-worth. If you know your worth, your self-esteem will soar.
Most of the time, the thing holding us back from making big life decisions, is the fear of upsetting the people we’re closest to. You know what? They will be the same people who will eventually understand the reason why you did it and will stand by you.
Remember you are worthy!